shoes and more shoes

ok im seriously bored. like seriously. to the point im doing quizzes on facebook. omg. im wasting so much time. i had all these goals of trying to do some work. it lasted for a while. then path just got too boring.

anyways..i read this blog called ask sam..it's a bit like a sex and the city blog column..highlights interesting guy girl issues..makes me laugh along the way..gives me a little perspective as well..

it's part of the sydney morning herald website..and one of the articles i read recently was kinda funny..

HOW TO TELL A MAN BY HIS SHOES

We all know first impressions count. Especially when it comes to sizing up a new date. And after yet another email from an anxious male reader begging me to enlighten him as to what the heck women look for in a guy (and why he is so often overlooked), I felt we needed to get back to basics.

While Channel Ten's latest reality show "Taken Out" attempts to answer that very question, and endeavours to whip up some excitement and scandal over the way female contestants superficially judge the male species (with little regard for the fact that we've been fighting against the way men do it to us for decades), it seems that aside from judging a gent by his looks, voice and walk, it's his shoes that many women look at the most.

While I'm personally not one to follow this method for choosing a date, (I'm more inclined to judge a man by the way he converses with me via email), it appears from the gaggle of women I've recently polled that most are quick to quip that a bloke's footwear is a definite telltale sign of his personality, compatibility and dateability.

While it all sounds a little absurd, (whatever happened to getting to know someone before judging what they'd be like in the bedroom?), apparently there's method to this madness.

This according to Donna Sozio, author, dating expert and self-dubbed Shoe-ologist, who says a man's footwear can speak volumes about his true love potential even before he opens his mouth. Her top tip? "Never trust a man in alligator loafers" ...

With a mix of horror, intrigue and a desperate bid to aid our forlorn reader on how to channel his inner Casanova, I decided to enlist Donna's expertise to enlighten gents on how exactly to put his best foot forward. After all, even the new queen of talk, Tyra Banks, has been taking Donna's dating advice.

By Donna's reckoning, not only can we tell if he'll match up to our intellectual expectations, but we'll even be able to tell how he'll perform in the bedroom ...

Me: So Donna, do women really look at a man's shoes to size him up?

Donna: Absolutely! And I've heard that many employers do the same too. Yet the majority of men don't understand the power of shoes because they haven't tapped into it. They resist it with by saying, "I just want to be comfortable." But they need to know that shoes are his ticket to ride and get him where he wants to go.

Me: Are there any shoes we should be fully aware of? What exactly do Alligator Loafers say about a bloke that makes you so weary of those that wear them?

Donna: What would you naturally do if you saw an alligator walking towards you? Personally, I would escape. I always ask myself the question, "Why is he attracted to the shoes that he's wearing? What do his shoes say about him?" When I think of the qualities of an alligator - solitary, opportunistic and territorial - I ask myself, "Do I really want those qualities in a man?"

Me: How can you spot a Player through his shoes?

Donna: Men who wear elongated flip-tip exotic skin loafers in bright colours are usually players. They say three things: "sex, sex and more sex."

Me: How can you spot a man that is a Keeper (and will go the long haul with you) through his shoes?

Donna: The way you can tell is using a method I call the Sole-ology Trickle Down Theory. This is looking at how he treats his shoes, which also indicates how he will treat you. Just like relationships, shoes need maintenance. A man who understands and appreciates that and has a good attitude about taking care of his shoes is a keeper and someone who will go the long haul. How well a man takes care of his shoes clues you in on how well he takes care of all things in his life. Including, you.

Me: You say you can tell how good a man is going to be in bed from the way he puts on his shoes. How so?

Donna: Being a good lover is a mixture of timing, technique and performance. Dressing yourself (just like undressing yourself) can be a sensual act in itself. Again, how a man does one thing is generally how he does all things. A man who gives himself the time and attention to leisurely slip on his shoes (rather than cram his foot in and then run out the door) will most likely be a skilled lover.

Me: You say his socks are an indicator of his "libido and prowess". How so?

Donna: Men's socks are the equivalent of women's lingerie. What do they look like? Feel like? Are they sheer and ribbed? Or slightly yellow ordinary tube socks? Men who achieve what I call "sock-to-shoe harmony" pay great attention to detail. Which makes for a good lover. For the same reasons why women wear lingerie even when we know no one will see, even "unseen" details make a difference and count. The socks men wear are also an indicator of libido. For example, European men do socks well. They also have a worldwide reputation for being good lovers.

Me: Finally, can a man tell a woman by her shoes? And if so, is there anything that women should be aware of?

Donna: Yes, this certainly works both ways. Men can tell just as much about a woman by her shoes. Only men aren't usually looking. One thing to look out for is this: While it's true at women wear high heels and tolerate some level of foot pain to feel sexy, women who consistently wear ridiculously painful high-heeled shoes will most likely be needy because she puts a man's attention above herself.

Ouch. Hear that ladies? Maybe it's time to don some ballet flats after all ...

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you can read more interesting entries at http://blogs.smh.com.au/lifestyle/asksam/

but yea do u notice shoes? well i kno i do..but then again, i have a thing for shoes..i probably have at least 30 pairs of shoes maybe even more lying ard the house..there's probably a few more in singapore as well..haha..and i love buying shoes..

men's shoes are slightly different..im at a hospital nearly everyday and it's interesting to note the diff types of shoes dat diff guys wear as well as the maintenance level of their shoes..whether or not it's polished or whether they r falling apart..

i have seen alligator loafers ard..haha..whether or not they r players..well..i think they think they r players? haha..it's tru to a certain extent i reckon..

but there are a few things dat really annoy me abt men and their shoes (and socks):
1. hate it when men wear black pants and black shoes and then wear WHITE socks..pls..the michael jackson trend is definitely not in..
2. hate it when men dnt wear high enuf socks cos when they cross their legs, they show some of their leg..eww..
3. hate it when men wear unmatching socks or sports socks when they r wearing formal wear..so weird.

then again there are certain things dat annoy me abt women and their shoes too:
1. same as 1 above..cant believe some girls actually make dat mistake..sigh..
2. same as 2 above..sigh..
3. same as 3 above..sigh..
4. hate it when women wear tights or socks with open toe shoes..so weird!

haha..im so critical..shuld go to overland to buy some shoes while im at it..