taking responsibility.

i recently heard from my mum dat a student got a girl pregnant and the news was spread across the asian community. well considering even my mum knos this, it must be big news. but anyways, it turns out the family of the guy threatened the girl and told her dat if she didnt abort, they wouldnt have anything to do with her. well she didnt abort and i haf no idea wat the relationship is with the girl and the guy's family. but apparently the guy doesnt really keep in contact with the girl but everyone knos dat he has a son out there. kinda a sad story. and he's only a student. my mum thinks once he starts working, the girl can take him to court and ask for alimony? is dat the word? cant remember.

but anyways which made me think. a lot. if i were the guy, wat would i do? if i were the girl, wat would i do?

first if i were the guy, the rite thing to do would be to take responsibility. dats wat a good guy would do. and i would respect the girl's choice whether she wants to keep it or abort it. and accept her choice regardless. i think wat this guy did is despicable. to actually not even have any contact with ur child, dats wrong. the poor kid. an innocent party.

and if i were the girl, depending on my situation, i would consider abortion. cos i would never want to raise a kid who doesnt even have a father's love. dats so sad. and seriously i dont think i could ever be a single mum. it's way too hard. but if i was able to support myself financially then yea maybe i would raise the kid on my own. would i marry the guy? well i mite not actually. not if he doesnt love me. why enter a marriage where there is no love?

i asked my parents then, wat if they had a son dat got a girl pregnant? my dad said he would knock his son on the head. lol. and then afterwards, he would encourage him to take responsibility. yup marry the girl. and then i asked my parents wat if one of their daughters got pregnant before marriage? my dad also said he would knock his daughter on the head. lol. such a typical asian parent. but afterwards he said he would support her decision. and then i said, i dont think ur daughters are dat dumb. i hope this statement doesnt come back to haunt me. HAHA.

but seriously, the guy in this situation is a jerk. but then i had this discussion with a guy who was not raised in an asian environment, and he said asian parents would force their sons to marry the girl even if he doesnt love her. yea but im a little surprised dat the guy in this situation wasnt forced to marry the girl..maybe cos he was still studying? dunno. and then the question comes down to, why have sex with someone u dont even love? or the big question is, why were u stupid enuf not to use protection? sigh. i still think the kid loses out in the end, regardless of whether the parents end up marrying or not. the parents may not love each other and so arguments are likely to occur. and if the parents don't marry, then it ends up being a very sad situation for the kid. i guess wat im saying is, im really lucky dat i was born in a nuclear family. with 2 parents who love each other. as for the guy and the girl in the story, well i pity the kid the most. and i just hope the kid turns out ok.

my point in writing this. nothing really. as always, no point. but just something to think abt. wat would u do if u were in this situation?